“You smile a lot.”
For some reason, these words have been ringing in my head
for over a week. When I heard them, I wasn’t entirely sure what they
meant. That I was happy? That I smile at
inappropriate times? That I use it as a mechanism? That I smile unknowingly?
That I appear centered? I can’t shake the words, and the meaning behind them.
“This is good, right?” I keep thinking about it. I guess I do smile a lot.
I’ve always known I use it as armor – I smile when someone
asks a question I have no intention of answering, I smile when someone asks how
I’m feeling and I don’t want to talk about it, and I smile when I’m putting on appearances.
I smile as indication that I’m following
another person’s train of thought; I smile because I relate. I also think I’m a
generally happy person, and I love to laugh.
I smile because I feel like it, and because something makes me
happy. I laugh a lot, and use sarcasm
with a smirk on a regular basis, too.
Yesterday, however, I discovered that I smile for reasons I
hadn’t thought about before. I smile
when I’m uncomfortable… like, really
uncomfortable. Should you ask me a
question about something deeply personal, there’s a very good chance that I’ll
slap on a grin, and look away. I think
it’s embarrassment? I’m not entirely
sure. But, I definitely do it. It’s a defense mechanism, one I had never put
any thought into. Maybe frowning makes
me feel exposed? Weak? I really don’t know.
I guess, for me, smiling is a way of connecting with people,
without having to get personal. I keep
things pretty surface level with most people, I’m not big on sharing. I smile to ward of the questions, to laugh
through the “I’m so not going to
share that with you”, to keep people engaged and yet at a distance. My smiles aren’t disingenuous, they’re just…
a cover. I’m sure there is some deeply
profound reason for it all. There’s certainly some sort of history which caused
it, some grand design behind it on a subconscious level. I don’t know that I
care to dig that deeply. To me, it feels
like one of those ticks which may not be entirely typical, but it’s not a bad
thing to have someone notice.
Yeah, I guess I do. I smile a lot. I think I’m comfortable
with that.
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